The other day on the local news there was a poll asking the viewers if they would take out a loan to finance their wedding expenses? Of the respondents, 4% responded, ‘yes, they’d take out a loan to finance the wedding of their dreams.’ As I sat disappointed in the 4%, I tried to see the wedding day from their perspective. In today’s society, people want to be viewed as having it all together and want people to envy their lives. I wondered how many of the 4% admired other people’s lives from the distance of social media and wanted someone to envy their lives.
It is interesting how we envy other people thinking they have it all together, only to learn they are just as messed up as we are. It would be easy for me to tell you not to envy anyone because they have insecurities, doubts, and unhealthy thinking patterns like you but that wouldn’t stop you.
I see people who want to be married desperately and married couples achingly wishing they could get a divorce. I see women anxiously racing the clock to have children and women finding solace in counting down the years until they have an empty nest. I see men submitting to the pressure to marry and distressed husbands behaving as single men in marriage.
It seems like no one is truly content where they are.
Do you find yourself thinking about when you’ll meet the right person? A married person would tell you to enjoy having time to yourself, getting to travel with friends, and doing anything you want to do without regard for anyone else. They would tell you to enjoy your life and don’t wait until you meet that person; start living your life today.
Do you find yourself daydreaming about a divorce? A single person would tell you that hanging out with your friends is fun but it gets lonely. Many nights you will want to just hang out with a special person and know that person is going to be there the next day, the next day, and the next. They would ask, is it really that bad?
The old adage says, ‘the grass isn’t always greener on the other side’. In 2019, most people accept that it isn’t greener, but would rather experience a new shade of green than to water the grass where they are.
Regardless of where you are, once you get what, who or where you think you want to be, you’ll eventually become discontent and long for something, someone, or somewhere else. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your life, begin focusing on the positive aspects of your current situation.
If you’re going to envy someone, make sure you know their entire story with the good, the bad, and the horrible included and if you still want to envy them, feel free. I believe if you knew what it took for someone to get to the place where you see them, you’d think twice about envying them and would be more accepting of your current situation. Even if the situation is less than desirable to you.